Wednesday, October 27, 2004

Knot experienced in weddings

Wedding jitters? If I had time to think past the wedding stress, maybe I'd have those. Nothing like a wedding to make you snap even at your own Mom.

I'm not sure why both myself and my attractive law student fiancee thought we'd plan a simple wedding in just over a month. But just when you think you've got everything mentally prepared, something else comes up that you hadn't thought of. The table cards! The exit!

It doesn't help, and I need to be careful here, that members of the female species tend to get a little ... oh what's the word ... passive aggressive? The maxim that you're supposed to read her mind and get it right every time comes across double during the couple of weeks before a wedding.

Suddenly, I'm remembering every horror story I've heard about wedding planning ... limos not showing up, brides that take one too many of (fill in the blank... Xanex, Prozac, Alcohol) something, flowers/cakes/guests not showing up.

Of course in our wedding, since most of the audience is in the wedding party, we don't have to worry about that.

I'm excited, nervous, scared of what will go wrong, but looking forward to having this behind us, and having my beautiful fiancee -- no, wife! -- back to her normal self, and back to our normal relationship.

Next: Wedding photos! Drama! Mi Mama!

Friday, October 15, 2004

Happy Anniversary to Me

... because this week I celebrated 5 years as my own business, law firm, and independent company! (Warning: Shameless plug ahead:

I can't believe I started October 14, 1999, with a little money in the bank, and NO clients, and now have almost 300 clients, and STILL no money in the bank! Woo hoo!

Looking back, it's been a great ride, and I couldn't have done it without my great employees (, and the support of my friends, notably Rizio and Nelson and my family.

Here's to another 5 years --- cheers!

Thursday, October 14, 2004

The Jury

Here I am, in day three of another jury trial, still picking a jury. Although I strongly believe that the jury system is preferable to any alternative, picking a jury is tedious, and the jurors seem angry that it's taking so long, and that there's so much waiting.

We have a great judge where I'm in trial at the North Justice Center in Fullerton, and my client (and his family) couldn't be nicer. Even defense counsel had the jury laughing when he asked when you can tell a defense attorney is lying? His mouth is moving!

Monday we have to finish picking the jury, and then the fun starts -- opening statements and picking apart the DA's alleged evidence against my client. Stay tuned for all the exciting action.

After the trial broke for the weekend, I had to fight traffic and spend four hours driving to the jail in Rancho Cucamonga - West Valley Detention Center, where I waited for 1.5 hours, and then was told that their computers were down, and tough cookies for my visit tonight. Great - just great! I can't even get let into jail! As Groucho Marx said, "I don't want to join any club that would have me as a member", so maybe I'm not too disappointed.

Speaking of exciting action, tonight is both Survivor, and The Apprentice. I guess I know what I'll be doing!

Tuesday, October 12, 2004

Columbus Day

Columbus Day. A strange holiday. Every courthouse, bank, post office, state and federal office is closed, but almost every private company I know works, including our firm. When did this become a "government worker only" holiday?

We used it to have an all staff meeting and catch up on some housekeeping, tasks that needed to be done, and meet with clients (who probably had the day off).

Considering that the current political view of Christopher Columbus is of a "slave trader... steeped in blood, violence, and death",, is it better to take a day off in remembrance, or just work through another holiday?

We are also working on Veteran's day, and decided to take that day and hold an out of the office seminar. I suppose that government worker holidays have their uses.

Sunday, October 10, 2004

Reality TV

Reality TV gets a lot of criticism, but it's revitalizing television, in my opinion. Television of 5 to 10 years ago was composed of a lot of badly written, badly acted sitcoms, many of which didn't last more than a season. Although there were "Friends" and "Seinfield", there were also many, many sitcoms that weren't watercooler talk, let alone worth watching or "Must See TV".

I used to rarely watch TV, preferring the higher production values and experience of movies instead, but currently, I'm hooked on the following:
  1. The Apprentice. With the cut-throat competitiveness of the "interviewees", the fun tasks assigned (and the ability to second guess each decision from your couch), and the egotistical dourness of "The Donald", this show is addictive.
  2. Survivor. Some consider this the original reality show (you could argue that The Real World, on MTV, or PBS' American Family holds that title), but it certainly started the current trend. This is hit or miss, but the brutal nature of this show and the clever competitions that keep the starving, scheming competitors of this show on their toes often makes this clever television.
  3. Fear Factor. Much lower in production values than the two above, but they know what they are doing -- spectacular stunts, beautiful contestants, and the eating of nauseating food products. The "Couples Fear Factor", which I understand gave NBC it's highest ratings for this show, was fun stuff.
  4. The Bachelor. One of the worst produced shows on television, and each episode has enough pauses, "coming up next" segments, and uses of the word "connection" to be edited into a 10 minute show, but the general cattiness and beauty of the women contestants make this fun. Extra bonus fun is found in making fun of the doofus bachelors they get (Bass fishermen?), and the bad spelling found in the titles on the bottom of the screen ("The Guys's house"?). Coming up next: "The Most Shocking... rose ceremony EVER!"
  5. The Real World. This show is WAY out of being close to targeted to my demographic, but it still is vicarious fun. Like Survivor, this show depends on the personalities of its cast members, but it can be youthful fun, like the Real World: Las Vegas season was, spawning a career from Trishelle and inspiring youth everywhere.

One of the best sites online for commentary on reality shows is Articles are free and very humorous.

Or even better, get out there and get some fresh air and sun - or read a book!

Lazy Sunday

Welcome to my blog! I'm not sure what's wrong with me lately - more tired than anything. Lots of driving lately. Today I need to run errands, wedding invitations need to be addressed, and I need to fill up the tank. I'm hoping this will be a good week for the business, since we need it right now.

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